Sunday, February 24, 2013
Good afternoon to everyone.
Thanks to all who commented regarding my post about declining civility and slipping from the high road. I wanted everyone to take a moment to consider their part in the decline and resolve to return to the high road.
Because this is an emotional case and we are a blog, I think we should feel free to express our emotions from time to time as the spirit moves us. There is, however, such a thing as getting carried away and I do not want to see the house degenerate into insults, name-calling, and attacks on each other.
This is not a war zone or a church.
I think Aussie expressed my concern with this comment:
How will “venting” your dislike/hatred do anything for Trayvon or his memory?
If name calling is your main purpose, how are you better than the “other side” who call names all day?
The two guys who first brought this up, Whonoze and unitron, almost got accused of being GZ supporters for it. But their point isn’t that they don’t want to hear poor George being called bad names. They don’t want to hear everyone here, people they’re on one side with and respect, they don’t want US engaged in that kind of name calling and hatred spewing.
It’s a matter of taking the high ground — no, of remaining on the high ground we started out on — to speak for a dead child who can’t speak for himself. And a matter of not letting feelings take over, to the detriment of looking at facts and reality.
It’s not to protect GZ from being called names, he probably deserves it. It’s to warn you against becoming a hate-spewing name-caller, you ARE better than that.
The Outhouse mob have heaps of solidarity through hatred…..is that what we should emulate here? The main solidarity here is, or used to be, support for Trayvon’s side of the story; the shared dislike or disgust with his killer was a side issue. It should stay that way.
We are a family and no useful purpose is served by calling out anyone when at one time or another everyone, including me, has crossed the line.
The line, of course, is invisible and varies according to individual perception. I suppose it’s more of a feeling than an actual line.
Freedom of expression enhances creativity. Having fun enhances learning. All life is rife with ambiguity and there is something within us that rebels against a rule.
My goal is to maintain a welcoming place where everyone feels safe to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of attack.
If anyone wants to know what I do not want this place to become, go and observe the dialogue at the CTH or HP.
Freedom of expression too often serves as an excuse to let loose our meaner instincts.
Respect for others, self-reflection, and a willingness to adjust are elegant signs of wisdom, maturity and grace. They are not signs of capitulation to authority and convention.
Respect this house for it is your house and not a junior high school playground.
Be aware that your words can wound and guard against becoming what you despise.
Resist your meaner instincts and own what you say.
This is a good place and we are better because of it.
Let’s keep it that way.
We are two days distant from the first anniversary of Trayvon’s death.
What does it mean to you?